They celebrated their first wedding last September 21 in privacy, and this friday They will do a kind of ‘reboda’ in a 3,000 square meter estate in Madrid, larger and more festive, together with their dearest friends, among whom are, they say, Alejandro Sanz or his professional colleague, the journalist Maria Casado. Irene Villa and David Serrato They are living a storybook love… with some peculiarity, since we are dealing with a LAT couple, a concept that has been talked about a lot lately.
What is a LAT pair?
If the classic stories of princes and princesses ended with “and they lived happily ever after,” in the story of Irene and David we should add “but each to his own house.” Because that’s exactly what LAT means: ‘living apart together’, I mean, live separately together. That of maintaining a stable relationship, but with separate domestic lives, It is a trend that apparently began in Anglo-Saxon countries and is increasingly spreading throughout the West.
Irene herself explained the reason for this decision, saying that living separately was going to help them value more what they have. So, and since She resides in Madrid with her children and he in Soria, Their residences will continue to be two. Thus, they have explained in different media, reunions are much better.
Why are LAT relationships so fashionable? The data speaks
According to data from a study by Luis Ayuso – University of Málaga, In Spain it is estimated that around 8% of couples maintain the LAT; noticeably less than, for example, countries like France, where they reach a 10%. The United States or the United Kingdom have around two million LAT couples, according to research by the British firm The Economic and Social Research Council.
But, contrary to the traditional tradition of getting married and moving in together, this type of relationship proposes a new dynamic in which, faced with some disadvantages (more expenses, for example), the advantages seem to be much greater.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of living in a LAT relationship?
Living under the same roof ends up making each member of the couple give ground to their partner, they lose that degree of independence which they enjoyed when they didn’t live with someone. In a LAT relationship, everyone’s tastes (If I prefer to watch comedies and my partner loves horror movies, it will be easier to do it separately than in a traditional relationship). Consequently, people who enjoy a LAT relationship They value the time they spend alone and they also put much more desire into the spaces they share as a couple. The possibilities and reasons for discussion are reduced.
All of this contributes to the routine It takes longer to settle in, which keeps relationships in better health. On the other hand, when there are children involved, the little ones do not have to adapt to a new member in the family, and maintain a less demanding relationship with the partner of their parents for both parties, avoiding conflicts and, above all, a potential uprooting of the little ones, who do not have to bear the consequences of that change in mom or dad’s life.
On the other hand, from Psychology and Mind also point out that it also presents certain challenges for relationships. In this sense, they say that this model can lead to a lack of security and trust in the relationship, since “by not being present on a day-to-day basis, couples may experience doubts about the stability of the relationship and the fidelity of the other.” . On the other hand, they indicate that if it is an imposition due to external circumstances and not a desire “it can generate tensions and conflicts if one of the parties does not feel comfortable with physical separation.”
Two years of love that has been sealed in a monastery
The relationship between Irene and David began a couple of years ago, when she went to a rural event in Soria, the city where her husband now resides. Some time ago she had separated from Juan Pablo Lauro (father of her children and currently married to the singer Nuria Fergó), and the love between her and David arose without even looking for it. “Blessed is the day our paths crossed,” he exclaimed in a post on his Instagram account.
His “first wedding” with David it was celebrated outside the monastery of Santa María de La Vid (which you can see in the video above), in Burgos. Although it was secular in nature, it had a certain religious air, according to Irene, since they received the blessing of Father Ángel, from the aforementioned monastery, last July. Although the rain made its appearance, nothing clouded the happiness of a couple very much in love, in which Carlos, Gael and Eric, the bride’s sons, had prominent roles.